Now that you have a great profile, you are well on your way to finding a date. It is now time to contact your date. This part will determine whether she agrees to go out with you in the end or not, so you have to be very careful. Confidence is the first thing here. Women like a confident guy, and if you are not, they can smell it. Do what you have to do to get your confidence up. If a few beers help, then by all means, just don’t get drunk!
There are some additional pointers that you can use to get her to take notice and eventually agree to a date. Here are some of the tips that you need to keep in mind to make a good enough impression for her to agree to go out on a date with you.
Get her to take notice immediately!
Attractive women naturally get a lot of emails on dating sites, and so you want to beat the competition. What you need is great conversation starters. However, before you get to the chatting, you first want to make sure that she actually opens your email! She has a lot of them to go through, and you can be sure that she will not read all of them.
The trick here is to have a good subject line. Go for something original that she has not seen before. Clichés should be avoided at all costs. Anything about you being the man of her dreams will do nothing for you. A good subject line should be funny and original. Something likes “I swear I am not a serial killer” is a good subject line. Something along those lines will do you a lot of good as well.
Your introduction also needs to get her attention and make her want to read more. Mentioning something that is on her profile, for example, can make for a great conversation topic. It also shows that you have taken the time to try and find out what she is about. You will get extra points by mentioning something that you are both interested in. Something likes;
“I saw on your profile that you like golf. That’s one thing that we have in common. I am actually pretty good. Not like Tiger Woods of course, I am way out of his league! Maybe we could get together sometime and exchange some tips and maybe get to know you a bit better. I will be looking forward to talking with you more.”
Such a template will definitely grab her attention and immediately show her that you both have something in common. She will definitely want to read your future messages.
Keep it clean!
You are trying to get to know her, so keep it clean. No dirty talk (at least not yet!). Most women are looking for a decent guy. You can be sure that there are a lot of perverts sending her messages, and you do not want to be one of this sorry bunches that never gets any replies back. Be polite and you can be sure that she will want to talk with you more.
Avoid making references to your sexual prowess or size of your member. This is the quickest and easiest way to get on her ‘reject’ list. Talk about something that you might both be interested in. Be a gentleman, women love that. She can tell a lot about you from that first email, and so really think about what you are going to say.
Customize your messages
A huge turn off for women on dating sites is a message that has been obviously sent to many. She wants you to talk to her directly. Make sure that each message you send has been customized to fit the girl. Take a good look at her profile, and make it obvious that you have taken the time to read it.
Make sure that you know all the details about what she likes or what she is into. Make a mention of this in your email. This is a foolproof plan to get you a response. Make it obvious that you have read her profile, and that you like what you see. Do not copy and paste the same email to many girls. You will not get a response, and you will simply have wasted your time. If you are not sure how to go about it, here are two templates that you can use. This is just an example, and you can edit to fit what you want to say.
Subject: I promise I am not a serial killer.
I will not bore you with details of how good I am in bed or any of that stuff. I’ll do something different here – I see from your profile that you like to (activity). I am also very interested, but I can’t say I am all that. Maybe you could give me some pointers sometime to help me out. Anyway, just wanted to tell you I liked your profile, and would love to chat with you soon. Take care!
Subject: Sorry, no pictures of my junk
I feel bad that I don’t have any cheesy pick up lines for you or pictures of my junk. What I do have, however, could prove to be more useful. I see that you like to (activity). I am actually not so bad at it myself; here is a tip to think about (one or two-sentence tip). That’s all you get for free! If you allow me to take you out on a date, maybe you can get a bit more out of me! Talk to you soon!
As you can see, the key to getting her to take notice is to let her know that you are interested in the same things that she is. A little of humor will also go a long way in getting her to take notice. The first message is simply letting her know that you have noticed her. You are also laying the ground work for future conversations. Next time you talk to her, you will be a little more confident since you have something to talk about.
One thing to avoid on your first message is telling her how beautiful she looks. There is nothing that you can tell her that she hasn’t already heard. You are still a stranger to her, and she might be uncomfortable with you commenting about her looks.
If you really want to complement her, look for other things that you like about her aside from her looks. If she has a good sense of humor, for example, you can go ahead and complement her on this. Something else is that every other guy on the dating website is telling her how hot she is. If you neglect to complement her on this, she will want to know why. As strange as it sounds, women are actually attracted to that kind of thing.
Re-read before clicking ‘send’
You might think that you have it right the first time, but you can always do better. Read your email again a few times before sending to make sure you have everything right. It might not sound so good the second time you read it through, and there are some things that you could change to make it perfect.
Datingis supposed to be fun , and so don’t take it too seriously. Do not make it your life’s mission to get a date. Follow these rules on how to start a conversation and have fun with it, and you can be sure that you will get that girl whom you have been eyeing!